Ran into that once. My Colt 1911's eat everything. From the 1917 made Colt to the last one I bought in the early 90's (a stainless Series 80).
Those same reloads (230 grain LRN, 200 grain LFN, 185 grain LSWC, etc.) did just as well in my P14 and my nephews XD Compact.
Then I bought a used Series 70 Colt for my youngest son. Nope. We got the same nose up jam you describe (as well as the darn thing dinging the snot out of the case mouths). I installed a different extractor, a stronger recoil spring and that fixed about 95% of the case mouth damage issues - but it still didn't feed consistently.
I tried longer COL. Seat the bullets farther out. That fixed those nose up jams into the slide/ejection port on the Colt Series 70. The longer ammo still did fine in my Colts and the P14 but would not chamber in the XD Compact of my nephews.
The XDs must be really inconsistent. I got a 5" Tactical a few months back. I pulled the barrel out, sat down to load up some ammo for it and did some plunk testing and what I was loading would drop in, plunk nicely (easy to hear/feel), spin easily and then drop right out when I turned the barrel up. But then they wouldn't fit in the magazines. Not too long for the barrel, but too long for the magazines. I never ran into that before.
Like you said. The longer we do this the more we learn about it.