Seems like, sometime or other, we discussed some of these issues/questions/ideas previously.
I just looked at my P09 .40, again. Handy to have one by the chair when you're going over questions on the forum.
I can see through the firing pin retaining pin, easily. Bright, shiny, no apparent damage/bulges to mess up the light coming through the roll pin center hole.
Seems the firing pin retaining pin on this pistol is in excellent shape. If the firing pin was caving that roll pin in I should be able to see that bulged surface due to it messing up the light/making a dark spot/shadow on the eye side of the pin.
Seems like I've wondered about/suggested (but never think to do on my own guns) is to find the right diameter drill bit that easily, but snugly, slides through that roll pin center. Once the drill bit stop sliding through you'll know the firing pin retaining pin is getting some damage from the firing pin strikes. Going to a smaller drill bit could tell you how much deformation you've got. At some point (measured using smaller and smaller drill bits you might get an idea that it's time to change that pin out - but who would we know what size drill bit is the minimum?