Adding a personal opinion. First I DO understand that 380s and and smaller calibers CAN be effective in a SD situation.
I like the looks and feel of some of the .380s I've handled but never owned.
At some local pistol matches I've frequented, .380 carry pistols have been used in the action shooting matches. We had some steel targets calibrated to react/fall with hits from the 9mm minimum allowable125 PF cartridges ( bullet weight X bullet speed / 1,000). In 9mm Luger that equates to a 125 gr bullet travelling at 1000 feet per second, or a 115 gr bullet at 1086 feet per second, very very light 9mm Luger loads.
Repeatedly I have seen .380s with SD loads fail to drop a calibrated steel target/popper with very accurate shots.
THIS effects my bias against the .380 for SD uses. While I'm sure numerous successful .380 SD events occur, they are still lacking the power (and capacity) that makes the ,9mm Luger the better "bet" to save your life.....or knock down poppers.