I have a TSO 40 and my safety is super stiff!!! I'm looking at replacing it with a CZC or factory CZ Shadow 2 extended safety as I have to shift my grip to disengage it. I have yet to accidentally engage the safety. I wish the thumb rest was 1/8" wider and 1/4"longer ( 1/8" up / 1/8" lower ) though. I have changed the slide release out with the pin only, but I prefer a functioning slide stop. I just feel the metal of the slide stop has blocks my thumb a little bit.
All of that said, trying to shoot the TSO as fast as I can, some what accurately, I have yet to engage the safety! I think it's mostly a personal thing; size of hands, position of hands, grip under recoil.