I forgot about this post and have since done a few things
I have tried every combination of trigger reassembly possible, with lube, without lube, etc. No changes in the difference in the trigger.
I also received and installed an overwatch precision shoe and np3 striker. While the kit seems great, the kicker is that the trigger is still awful, it feels no different than it did in it's stock configuration. No way it's anything to do with the OWP parts as they're supposed to improve the situation.
One thing that did change however is the problem with the trigger appears to follow the frame now, more than the slide. I can put my unaltered P10C slide on the "bad" frame and the trigger gets worse, and the altered slide on the "good" frame and it gets a bit better.
I still don't know what to do, pretty frustrated at this point as I sort of hate the gun right now. I have put about 200-300 rounds through it now with no notable improvement in the trigger. At this point, it's a bit worse and heavier than my stock Glock 19 trigger, which feels much better by comparison (for what it's worth I don't hate stock glock triggers).
To reiterate, the trigger feels like it hits a solid wall, and has an "all-at-once" heavy break, no roll, no creeping over the break, just a fat, solid, heavy-ish break. It was the same pre and post aftermarket kit installation. Not a single difference. It's not unshootable, but it's also not the trigger I had before I removed the striker assembly the first time, and very odd that I could replace it with parts intended to make the trigger better and it's still bad.
Compared to the other P10C, that one has a smooth break, no heavy wall, and you can pull the trigger slowly and hear it "creep" up towards the final break and it just sort of moves past the break with a nice crispy sound. They aren't the same at all, not even a little bit.