Make it out of the barrel?
Do you mean, it doesn't go all the way out, or doesn't move enough to be seen (as having moved.)
It shouldn't necessarily shoot out of the barrel, but you should be able to see movement -- if the pencil is long enough.
(If the gun fires properly, you should be concerned.)
There is no hard "scientific" pairing of springs like you ask about. A ligher recoil spring can be paired with a heavier hammer spring to keep recoil under control (about the same), and vice versa. A heavier hammer spring, however, will give you a much heavier trigger pull.
A heavier firing pin spring used to be installed when they went to a heavier recoil spring to minimize the risk of slam fires -- but with firing pin blocks, this is not a big concern.
If your gun is functioning properly, don't replace anything. Just get standard replacement springs of the same weight as stock for eventual use.